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Loneliness

You would think with 5 kids running around doing their own thing and a baby that totally relies on you that the last thing I would feel is lonely. In fat that is why when I started feeling lonely I dismissed it. I had to be imagining things, how could I feel like I am all alone when there are 6 other people in the house?

Really? It's easy. I have been working out side the home for 3 1/2 years. I had daily interaction with adults and grew to enjoy it. Yes I missed my children, yes I am glad to be at home, I wouldn't change it for anything. However, I do miss having a conversation at my intellectual level. Otherwise complete sentences not about boys, cookies, clothes, or that icky stuff now all over the front door.

So, I have now addressed the problem, I need adult interaction. Where to find it is the question. There are many different places really. The first thing I did though was decide what kind of interaction do I want. Through prayer and thought I decided it would be most beneficial if I could get together with other Christian moms.

With that I was again greatful I joined a email group called Christmums. Nancy the owner of the Christmums website, moderates the Christmums list on yahoo. That is a bunch of wonderful ladies and spirit filled too. They will lift you up and encourage you wonderfully. My only problem was I needed somebody that I can grab a cup of coffee or a soda with and sit and talk. Or maybe have a play date.

As I have been looking into things that I can try to do I have found several resources.

• MOPS ~ Mothers of Preschoolers
• Womens Bible Studies ~ usually you don't have to be a member of a church to join the bible study. I know here our church has a couple a week with different studies going on.
• Neighbors ~ Be a witness and make a friend. This has really blessed me and a new friend of mine that has two little ones.
• Play Dates ~ Take an add out in a local paper or on your church bulliten board, there are others out there like you!

This is not an exhaustive list and I am sure there are many more ideas out there. Trust in the Lord to bring you the right people you need at the right time of your life. Right after we got home from the hospital with Benji, we found out our neighbor's daughter had heart defects as well. We have gotten to know each other and supported each other with the two little ones.

God puts the people you need in your life. Either because you need to be there for them or they need to be there for you. If you are feeling lonely, ask God to bring you somebody. He knows our needs and all we have to do is ask in order to receive.

Submitted on : 4-Aug-2005