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Parenting with Love and Logic

Review written by Faith Johnson

As a parent we only have so many chances to mold our children to be responsible and mature adults. 'Parenting with Love and Logic' gives you a common sense approach as to how to do it.

The main things that have come out in my reading of this book is that:

1. We really need to be careful how we speak to our children and teens. If you are negative all the time you will tear down their self-esteem. A very prime example on this is when a child get's in trouble, how do you respond?
"Johnny, I can't believe you made this mess! Don't you know how to clean up after yourslef?"
This tactic puts the child down twice. The first one is they believe you are disgusted with them and mad at them because of the mess, the second is you question their intelligence by asking them don't they know how. An alternative reaction would be..
"Johnny, I see you are having fun playing, but now it's time to clean up. Can you get it picked up please?"
This comes across alot nicer and more loving.

2. Sometimes you have to let them fall. Even if mom and dad do know what is best, you gotta let the child learn for themselves sometimes. This is easier to teach as a young child than a teenager too.
Little Johnny wants to go outside and play but it's cold. Mom tells him to go get a coat on but he comes back with a jacket. Mom then has two choices.. 1. Make little Johnny put his coat on and fight with him or 2. Tell Johnny that it is very cold outside and that his jacket really isn't warm enough. Then it gives Johnny a choice and he becomes responsible for his decision.

At first when I was reading the book and seeing these 2 of several ideas I was really of the opinon that this would never work. I will admit, I am a mama bear and I protect my kids. Probably too much. I started using these ideas, and you know what? It's working on two of the kids. Which also shows that different children require different parenting techniques.

If you are interested in purchasing Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility by Foster Cline, M.D. and Jim Fay you can do so at ChristianBook.com or Amazon.com.

Parenting with Love & Logic
By Foster Cline, M.D. & Jim Fay / Nav Press

When they reach their teens, many kids seem to have no clue about making wise decisions-so they make bad ones. How can you raise mature, responsible kids? Foster Cline and Jim Fay show you how to parent "with love and logic." Once you learn to establish effective controls without resorting to anger and threats, your kids will learn to deal with the real world by solving their own problems. And you'll build a rewarding relationship built on love, trust and fun.

Submitted on : 13-May-2005